Tom Ball’s Dying Words

Years ago I remember reading a story about a man, Thomas Ball, who set himself on fire, killing himself in the process, to protest family court proceedings in New Hampshire.

I never read his rationale for doing what he did.

I’ve decided to print it here in its entirety, as part of my US Family Court is a SCAM series. I’ve also bolded portions I think are relevant, insightful, etc.

I disagree with his want to change the system via violent means, as the citizens of this country are too fat, dumb, and watching The Voice instead of doing something more important — for all the points Mr. Ball here makes, he misses something key — for now, all we have to do is bankrupt the system to change it, and that is easier than it sounds.

He also made the assumption that his death would cause some sort of national conversation to take place. He couldn’t have been more wrong.

A man walks up to the main door of the Keene N.H. County Courthouse, douses himself with gasoline and lights a match. And everyone wants to know why.

Apparently the old general was right. Death is not the worst of evil.

I am due in court the end of the month. The ex-wife lawyer wants me jailed for back child support. The amount ranges from $2,200. to $3,000. depending on who you ask. Not big money after being separated over ten years and unemployed for the last two. But I do owe it. If I show up for court without the money and the lawyer say jail, then the judge will have the bailiff take me into custody. There really are no surprises on how the system works once you know how it actually works. And it does not work anything like they taught you in high school history or civics class.

I could have made a phone call or two and borrowed the money. But I am done being bullied for being a man. I cannot believe these people in Washington are so stupid to think they can govern Americans with an iron fist. Twenty-five years ago, the federal government declared war on men. It is time now to see how committed they are to their cause. It is time, boys, to give them a taste of war.

There are two kinds of bureaucrats you need to know; the ones that say and the ones that do. The bridge between them is something I call The Second Set of Books. I have some figures of the success of their labors. You and I are in these numbers, as well as our spouses and children. But first let me tell you how I ended up in this rabbit hole.

My story starts with the infamous slapping incident of April 2001. While putting my four year old daughter to bed, she began licking my hand. After giving her three verbal warnings I slapped her. She got a cut lip. My wife asked me to leave to calm things down.

When I returned hours later, my wife said the police were by and said I could not stay there that night. The next day the police came by my work and arrested me, booked me, and then returned me to work. Later on Peter, the parts manager, asked me if I and the old lady would be able to work this out. I told him no. I could not figure out why she had called the police. And bail condition prevented me from asking her. So I no longer trusted her judgment.

After six months of me not lifting a finger to save this marriage, she filed for divorce. Almost two years after the incident, I was talking with her on the phone. She told me that night she had called a mental health provider we had for one of the kids. Wendy, the counselor told my then wife that if she did not call the police on me, then she too would be arrested.

Suddenly, everything made sense. She is the type that believes that people in authority actually know what they are talking about. If both she and I were arrested, what would happen to our three children, ages 7,4 and 1? They would end up in State custody. So my wife called the police on her husband to protect the children. And who was she protecting the kids from? Not her husband, the father of these children. She was protecting them from the State of New Hampshire.

This country is run by idiots.

The police sergeant Freyer screwed this up from the get go. When I got the Court Complaint form the box was checked that said Domestic Violence Related. I could not believe that slapping your child was domestic violence. So I looked up the law. Minor custodial children are exempted. Apparently, 93% of American parents still spank, slap or pinch their children. To this day I still wonder if Freyer would have made this arrest if it had been the mother that had slapped the child.

Labeling someone’s action as domestic violence in American in the 21st century is akin to labeling someone a Jew in Germany in the 1930’s. The entire legal weight of the state is coming down on him. But I consider myself lucky. My family was destroyed. But that poor bastard in Germany had his family literally annihilated.

Arrests are mandatory for the police in New Hampshire for domestic violence. That is not law. That is police department policy. Laws come from the Legislature and the Governor’s office together. God only knows where these policies come from. The State’s Attorney General also has a mandatory arrest protocol for domestic violence. I call these policies, procedures and protocols The Second Set of Books. You never cover the Second Set of Books your junior year in high school. That because we are not suppose to have a Second Set of Books. This is America-we have the rule of law.

I am a regular guy, a coffee and cheeseburger type of fellow. As remarkable as my life has been, I figure that what happens to me must be happening to others as well. I was 48 years old when I got arrested here for my first time. So I went looking for the arrest numbers for domestic violence, this new group that I had unwilling joined. I could not find anything. So I wrote the U.S. Dept. of Justice in Washington. They wrote back that they did not keep track of domestic violence arrests. The FBI keeps track of all other crimes. How come not domestic violence? I thought some low level clerk was blowing me off.

At the time, I had mailing addresses in both New Hampshire and Massachusetts. So I wrote to all six Congressional offices, the two Senators from each state and the two Congressman. They like doing favors for constituents hoping you will favorably remember their name in the voting booth. All six offices reported back the same thing. They do not know how many arrests for domestic violence have been made. I immediately knew something was wrong. And I also knew this was not going to be good.

Improvise, adapt and overcome. The Army teaches that to every soldier it trains. They say that no battle plan survives the first five minutes of combat. So your people on the ground had better be able to think for themselves. Taking casualties in war is just an occupational hazard. Taking casualties and not accomplishing your mission is a disaster. After 21 years of Army service, I am pretty good at improvising.

The first thing I found was a study not of domestic violence arrests but of domestic violence injuries for 18 unnamed states and the D.C. in the year 2000. In the study 51% of the injuries were ‘no injuries’. So I knew I had a study of police reports. Who else but a police officer would record no injuries? I populated that out to the 50 states and came up with 874,000 arrest in the year 2000.

I had originally populated the number back to 1994 when the Violence Against Women Act (VAWA) was enacted into law. I would later find out these arrests stated with the U.S. Attorney General’s Task Force of Domestic Violence ten years earlier in 1984. As individual states data became available for various years and states, I would incorporated in to my informal study. The number I have now in 2011 is 36 million adults have been arrested for domestic violence. I have a gut feeling this number could be as high as 55 million. But I only have data to 36 million. So 36 million it stays. And there is a really cool trick you can do once you have this number. You can find out how many American men. women and children ended up homeless because of these arrests.

Most of the domestic violence statistics I have seen break down with 75% male and 25% female being arrested. So I am going to used the male pronoun for the one arrested spouse and the female pronoun for the victim spouse. That should make the domestic violence feminists ecstatic-man bad, woman good. But that is okay because that is probably the last nice thing I am going to do for them today.

When then a man is arrested for domestic violence, one of two things can happen. If they are only dating and have separate apartments, then he can head home. But if they are living together, then this fellow has a real problem. Bail conditions and then a possible protective or restraining order prevent him from being with her. So he needs to find a new place to live, at least until the charges are resolved. The King of his Castle is no longer allowed into his castle. A feminist name Pence who wrote that was absolutely giddy at that outcome. So he can get his own place if he has enough money. Or he can move in with his mother, his sister or another relative. He might have a girl friend who would let him stay with her. And if none of this is possible, well then I guess he is sleeping in his car down by the river.

If he has minor children, money will soon turn into an issue. Most men I know do not mind paying child support. They want their kids to have food on their plates, clothes on their backs, and a roof over their heads. But it does stress that man’s finances. Child support is usually 33% of the man’s gross income. Withholding for taxes, social security and health insurance can range up to 28% of his gross paycheck. So a man making $500 a week gross has only $825 monthly left over after withholding and child support. That is not enough money for an apartment here in Central Massachusetts. That does not include other expenses like heating, electric, gas, groceries, telephone, cable, car payment and car insurance. So he is in a financial hole. Estimates of homeless men run 82% to 94%. I am going to round that down to 80%.

After the King has left his castle, his wife runs into a problem. She was use to getting his whole paycheck for the household. Now she get a third for child support. Figure they both work and made the same money, her budget went from 100% down to 66%. If she was running the house on $3,045. a month when the King was home, now without him she only has $2,220. Most households in America cannot withstand a 27% hit on the household account. She’ll juggle the bills but eventually most wives figure out that they can pay all the smaller bills if they just does not pay the big bill. That would be the rent or the mortgage. So six to nine months after the King is out of the castle, the Queen, the Princes and the Princesses are also on the street. Domestic violence feminists state that 50% of victim spouses of domestic violence end up homeless at some time in their lives.

The last group of homeless from these arrests are children. The domestic violence feminists state that 70% of domestic violence couple have children. So 50% female times 70% children equals 35%. But children is plural. So we will double to 70%.

(Odd isn’t it? They know that 50% of victim spouses end up homeless and that 70% of them have children. How can they know the percentages when they do not know how many total arrests were made? Those people at the U.S. Justice Dept. cannot even pull off a credible cover-up. )

Men are 0.8, women are 0.5, and children are 0.7 for a grand total of 2.0 homeless Americans for every domestic violence arrest. Multiply that by 36 million and you get 72 million men, women and children ending up homeless at some point in their lives over the last 25 years because of these domestic violence arrests.

That is a really large number even by Washington standards. That is almost 25% of the entire population of the U.S. using 2010 census figures. Which begs the question did these homeless people contribute to this latest economic meltdown, or did they cause it? Because if they did cause it then the recovery will not be measure in months or years but in decades.

Some of the boys in the Father’s Movement think Congress might have shot themselves in the foot over this one. Personally, I think they shot themselves some place anatomically higher. No wonder the Speaker of the House is always crying. The Dummies on the Potomac.

Twenty-five years ago the federal government start pushing these arrests on state’s legal systems. Now, we have an economy on the rope. They have thrown a huge amount of money at banks, big business and local and states government. And we are still in the mud. But no economist either at the Treasury Dept., Federal Reserve, universities or think tanks are even looking at the impact of all these broken families. If that 36 million arrest is correct, then 72 million men and women, have been throw out of the middle class into subsistence living. Or is the number 55 million and 110 million? No one knows and no one is even looking. But why should look? According to the Attorney General, we do not know how many arrests we have made.

And if the Tea Party is any indication, insurrection is brewing in the land. Just a coincident? Not likely. This is what happens when the government wipes out the middle class.

The idea for these arrests came from something called the Minneapolis Police Experiment (MPE) of 1981-82. In the experiment police offices were given pads with one of three words written on them; counsel, send or arrest. Counsel meant the officer was to try to mediate the couple’s spat. Send was to send one of the spouses out of the house for eight hours as a cooling off period. Arrest was arrest one of the two spouses. The officer was to do as the top paper on the pad said to do. The experiment was set up by the Police Foundation and Lawrence W. Sherman was the lead researcher. The results show counseling resulted in a future assault in 24% cases, send was 19%, and the arrest option resulted in a future assault in only 10% of the cases. Perhaps a cheap way of cutting down future domestic violence.

In 1984 The U. S. Attorney General’s Task Force of Domestic Violence recommended arrest as the primary weapon in domestic violence assault. Lawrence W. Sherman recommend not using the arrests because the MPE was just one study and it could be wrong. They ignored him. And by 1992, 93% of the police departments in the nation had adopted some form of mandatory arrest in domestic violence cases.

But by 1992 five more addition studies similar to the MPE became available. Lawrence W. Sherman reviewed all five studies. Then once again he wrote that the police should not use arrest. In two of the five studies, they found the same result as they did in the MPE, that an arrest cut down the odds of a future assault. But in the other three studies an arrest actually increase the odds of a future assault. So arresting someone in a domestic violence situation to cut down on future assaults did not work any better than just flipping a coin. I do not know if Lawrence W. Sherman is still alive. But fortunately he wrote a book call Policing Domestic Violence that was published in 1992.

So we have 800,000 American police officers arresting one in every six adults in the country and throwing 25% of the men, women and children out on the streets in an effort to enforce a policy that they knew did not work back in1992. And I had always assumed that you needed a man to really screw something up. Oh well, there goes another glass ceiling.

Why would they push an arrest policy that does not work? There are two schools of thought on the reason why. The first comes from Lawrence W. Sherman. He calls it the Law of Just Desserts. Revenge for slights and offenses, real or imagined. I am sure there are some that would argue that women are not vengeful. But what is that old saying? Hell hath no fury…..

The second idea comes from the mother of the second wave of feminism. I do speak of the brilliant Betty Friedan. In the Epilogue Chapter of the 20th Anniversary Edition of her book The Feminine Mystique, Betty relayed why she resigned as the first president of the National Organization of Women in 1970. Betty wrote that she, “was unable to openly fight the man haters and unwilling to front for them any more…” So man hating bigots no only existed 40 years ago, they were also grabbing power. Now Washington is funding them. Makes you wonder what bigots they will fund next. Maybe the Klan?

Feminists had always claimed that when women took over, we would have a kinder, gentler, more nurturing world. After 36 million arrests and 72 million evictions what we got was Joe Stalin.

The third wave of feminists do not like to call themselves feminists. The word feminist could be perceived as gender oppression. These third wave of whatever-we-call-you got that right The treachery of our legal system over the last 25 years may end up giving all feminists a bad name. Which would make us as bigoted as the man-hating feminists who got us into this mess to begin with.

So let us talk about those bureaucrats that do. These are the ones that actually carry out the evil deeds. I like call them the do-bies.

Any one swept up into legal mess is usually astonished at what they see. They cannot believe what the police, prosecutors and judges are doing. It is so blatantly wrong. Well, I can assure you that everything they do is logical and by the book. The confusion you have with them is you both are using different sets of books. You are using the old First Set of Books- the Constitution, the general laws or statutes and the court ruling sometime call Common Law. They are using the newer Second Set of Books. That is the collection of the policy, procedures and protocols. Once you know what set of books everyone is using, then everything they do looks logical and upright. And do not bother trying to argue with me that there is no Second Set of Books. I have my own copies at home. Or at least a good hunk of the important part of it.

I got my Second Set of Books when I sued the Jaffrey NH police department. Under the discovery rule, I write them with the material I wanted and it would arrive in the mail a few weeks later. I got the Police Academy Training Manual. I got the Department’s Policy and Procedure Manual. I got the no-drop protocol that the attorney general sent to all his or her prosecutors. I even got the domestic violence protocols for the court system, one hundred pages worth. Once you read it the material, then you will know what the police, prosecutors and judges will do. They are completely predictable once you know what set of books they are using.

The police academy training manual states that an arrest in a domestic violence call is the preferred response. They cite the Minneapolis Police Experiment (MPE) as its justification. But the author of the MPE, Lawrence Sherman, said do not use arrest because five follow up studies show that it did not work. The would be a violation of the 4th Amendment in the First Set of Books against unreasonable search and seizure. Then there is that whole issue of whether the police have the right to arrest for any reason other than they believe a crime was committed.

The Jaffrey Police Department Policy and Procedures Manual states that if a wife says she does not want her husband arrested, the police are to ignore her, arrest the husband, and get with the prosecutor to see what they can work out. In other words, make the arrest and then see if you can Mickey Mouse it. The wife is eligible for spousal immunity. If she invokes it, then no statement she mades, written or oral, are admissible because she cannot be cross examined about it under oath. ( Did you say that? What did you mean when you said that?) With no statements the police have no probable cause in most cases to make an arrest. Also a violation of the 4th amendment in the First Set of Books.

The actor Nickolas Cage was drunk in New Orleans with his wife. Everyone else is drunk in New Orleans, so why should Nick be any different. He and his wife were arguing over which house the rented for their stay. Nick grab his wife’s arm and started to lead her to his house. The police arrested Nick for domestic violence. His wife was stunned. That was not domestic violence. “Nothing we can do,” the police explained to her. “Just following orders.”

That is an accurate explanation for victims, even if they do not think of themselves as victims. The police have a zero tolerance towards any physical contact. Things might get worse in the future is the feminist logical for this present iron fist approach to domestic relations. I would have to agree with them. After all the arrests, poverty, homelessness and misery, I can assure you-things are going to get worse.

But that nothing we can do, just following orders the officers explain always sounds so timid and lame. The police need to punch their explanation up a bit, make it more authoritarian. And there is a quick, low cost way of doing it. The police officers only need to say it in its original German.

The state Constitution in NH said the prosecutors job is to promote justice. The Attorney Generals protocols said that domestic violence case are no-drop cases. (Unless, of course, they take the Deal. Continue the case for a year, go to counseling, and everything falls off the books after the year. They did after all find some way of getting rid of all these cases.)

The Attorney General can hire, fire, layoff, promote, demote, commend or award bonuses. The constitution is some old, quaint, dusty document up in the Statehouse some where. So which one do you think is going to get obeyed?

Prosecutors are funny. Some, maybe most, have egos the size of Cape Cod. But of the three, police, prosecutor and judges, prosecutors have the least protection. Micheal Nifong, the prosecutor in the Duke Lacrosse Rape Case, was fired, disbarred, convicted of a crime, and actually jailed for trying to enforce the no-drop prosecution protocol for sexual assault in the Duke case.

The prosecutor in my criminal case fared a little better. I filed a complaint with his boss for summoning my two daughters, ages 7 and 4, to court. I had already conceded that the facts were not in dispute. The trial would be about the law. No witness were need much less a couple of toddlers. He still summoned them. (The Second Set of Books tells the prosecutors to get a sympathetic face in front of the judge or jury. What’s more sympathetic than toddlers.) The prosecutor could not refute my allegation because I enclosed a copy of the trial transcript. I had to pay for the transcript. When the prosecutor read it, he gave his two weeks notice and then blew town. That transcript was the best $46 I had ever spent in this life.

There is a name for what happens when a bureaucrat is destroyed by the First Set of Books for attempting to enforce the Second Set of Books. It is called the Abu Ghraib Syndrome. The people within the law enforcement community no longer seem to know the difference between the law, with its checks and balances, and the policies, procedure and protocols that constitute The Second Set of Books. In some cases you do not even know who wrote the policy, procedure or protocol. It could have been the local high school gym teacher for all anyone knows. Many of these bureaucrats are eventually going to learn the different between the First and the Second Set of Books. And my guess is that many of them are going to learn it the hard way. Because the only checks and balances in The Second Set of Books is The First Set of Books.

Judges routinely use our children as bargaining chips. Get the adult into counseling, continue the case for a year, and then drop it. This will open up the docket for the new arrests coming in next week. These judges that use our children are not honorable. Which is why I never use the term ‘Your Honor’ any more. I just call them judge.

Alex Baldwin, the actor, wrote that you have never seen a coward until you have seen a Los Angeles County judge. I call my judges-Sullivan, Arnold and even Runyon-cowards, too. When I first started observing them, nothing made sense. Arnold was completely infuriated when he was maneuvered into ruling not guilty. He verbally went up and down me so many times I lost count. What was the big deal? If I was not guilty just say and then we could all go home. But that was back in the days before I knew about The Second Set of Books.

I lost visitation with my two daughters when I got arrested. One was the victim-the other was the witness. After a not guilty, I expected to get visitation with my girls. But the divorce judge, Sullivan, decreed that counseling was in order and they would decide when we would reunite. I told the judge that the decision on whether these two girls had a father or a fatherless childhood was not leaving this courthouse. There would be a couple of reason for that decision.

First, by then I knew of the Second Set of Books. As much as I had prayed for the return of my children, I knew that this counseling might get thrown in the way. Judges are addicted to counseling like a meth-head is addict to crystal meth. Sullivan wrote in the divorce decree that he envision only one or two meetings with the counselor. There is no counseling done in the first meeting or two. It is intake-who’s the players and what are the issues. But Sullivan was not interested in counseling. He merely wanted to unload the decision out of habit. And if we do not shut them down now, they will be doing it to our kids in twenty years from now when they have little ones running around the house.

Second, just exactly where does the buck stop with our legal system? Police have to make an arrest. The prosecutor has to pursue the case. Judges now also walk a away without rendering a verdict, and passing the buck does not constitute a decision. Can those mental health counselors slide the decision over to someone else? Just where does this end? Who is responsible? Who is accountable?

The mental health crowd is the third reason I said no. Some people think they are geniuses with their Masters and PH D’s. Others think they are so wacky that they call them fruit loops. Well, I have a third name for them. Suckers. They did not get hired for their medical ability. They got these because they were willing to take these cases off the judge’s hands. Which has done nothing for the credibility for their profession. We are not here to help-we are here to unload. And they created a liability that did not previously existed. If a judge releases a defendant and he goes kills someone, that judge or the judiciary cannot be sued. But a mental health worker, and their employer certainly can be held liable. Our judiciary is now using the mental health field like a ten dollar whore.

I sued Monadnock Family Services to make them go away. I told their lawyer Byron that they were a legitimate target for men. We settled for no money. They would have nothing to do with this reconciliation. The counselor was released. And they would no longer get involved in any domestic violence cases.

Every time we ended back in court over whatever squabbles, I would ask Judge Sullivan for my children back. The decision belong to the counselors he would tell me. But he knew he had screwed up. I could see it in his face. But he would not fix it. He would not step out of that box those domestic violence/sexual assault advocates had built for him. After five years, he retired to a part time position at the Littleton courthouse 120 miles away.

So when guys like Alex Baldwin and I call judges cowards, we have legitimate reasons for doing so. It is not good for judges to be called coward. It is unlikely that it is good for the rest of us.

I do not claim to have all The Second Set of Book. I know of one book that I do not have. And I would have love to read that one. That would be the seminar that the domestic violence and sexual assault advocates put on periodically for legal personnel including judges. These advocates are camped outside every state, not federal, courthouse in America. The U.S. Dept of Justice provides 50-100% of their funding depending on the program. They have three day seminars at resorts where everything is paid for except the liquor. Judges in NH are ordered to attend. Neither Sullivan or Arnold would confirm or deny they had attended. They actually said nothing. It must be like the Masons where they will not say anything about the organization until you show them the secret hand sign.

Supreme Court Judge Louis Brandeis once wrote that the best description of a judge is the impartial guardian of the rule of law. How does three days of wine, women and song contribute to impartiality? It does not. So it should not have been any surprise that they would not answer me. After all, they were not on trial. I was. But they are going to be. They were suppose to protect to rule of law not collaborate in its demise. They have failed miserably.

A guardian ad litem is an attorney appointed for a child. The attorney solely represents the child. I got one when I was first separated to get a neutral pair of eyes and ears on the family. I was disappointed in his findings.

A few years later, another guardian was appointed for one of the kids. A regular report filed with the Court painted me as some sort violent psychopath. I thought that was uncalled for seeing as we had never met. It start a flurry of nasty letters between until we both came to the conclusion that this was not about us. We ended on a friendly note.

At a Court hearing later on I approached him. I asked him if he had had any domestic violence training. He said yes, that it was required to become certified as a guardian ad litem. Another chapter for The Second Set of Books that I never managed to acquire.. So men, if you were thinking about getting a guardian ad litem for an unbiased assessment, then you should ask for the domestic violence material that certified the guardian. And do not worry that you are not sure what you are looking for. It will stand right out.

There are more sections of The Second Set of Books. Medical personnel are supposed to report suspected domestic violence. The college professor Angela Davis has a story of a Latino couple in California getting in trouble feeding the dog his liver for dinner. Mental health employees are also required. Think of Wendy threatening our kids with foster care. Teachers, day care providers, the list just goes on and on. The East German secret police, the Stazi, had 25% of the population on record as informers. The United States is not that high yet, but we are still growing.

These people-police, prosecutors and judges-are suppose to protect us. They are checks and balances to prevent injustice. That is why we spend so much money of police training. But if the police screw it up, the prosecutor can catch it. If the prosecutor misses it then the judge can step in to fix it. But if all three have been compromised, then what does one need to do to get justice? Go to the appeals court or the Supreme Court? That seem a little ridiculous particularly when the zero tolerance has arrests for something as trivial as touching.

On one hand we have the law. On the other hand we have what we are really going to do-the policies, procedures and protocols. The rule of law is dead. Now we have 50 states with legal systems as good as any third world banana republic. Men are demonized and the women and children end up as suffering as well.

So boys, we need to start burning down police stations and courthouses. The Second Set of Books originated in Washington. But the dirty deeds are being carried out by our local police, prosecutors and judges. These are the people we pay good money to protect us and our families. And what do we get for our tax money? Collaborators who are no different than the Vichy of France or the Quislings of Norway during the Second World War. All because they go along to get along. They are an embarrassment, the whole lot of them. And they need to be held accountable. So burn them out.

In the last 25 years they have arrested one in six adults in this country and forced 25% of the men, women and children into homelessness. In 50 years it will be one in three adults arrested and 50% of the men, women and children ending up homeless. Most of our kids will live to the age of 68 years old. As bad as it was for you, your children will have twice the odds of it happening to them.

Some of you will say that 50% homelessness sounds absurd. But 25% is absurd and that is already here. There is no evidence that the police, courts, or government is planning to do anything different in the immediate future. And they will not do anything different until we make it so uncomfortable that they must change. Bureaucracy at its worst. So burn them out. This is too important to be using that touchy-feeling coaching that is so popular with business these days. You need to flatten them, like Wile E. Coyote. They need to be taught never to replace the rule of law. BURN-THEM-OUT!

Most of the police stations built in New England over the last 20 years are stone or brick. Fortunately, the roofs are still wood. The advantage of fire on the roof is that it is above the sprinklers. But even the sprinklers going off work to our advantage. There is no way they can work in a building with six inches of water. And I am certain we will disrupt their momentum once they start working out of a FEMA trailers. If they still do not get the message, then burn down the trailers.

The easiest way of burning a building is with the Molotov cocktail. It was invented by the Finns when the Soviets invaded in 1939. You fill a bottle with gasoline and stuff a rag in the end for a wick. You light the wick and throw bottle, It shatters on impact spraying gas everywhere and the wick ignites the gas. Simple, readily available, and effective. And only two things to remember.

First, use a glass bottle. Thinner glass is better than thicker glass. You want it to shatter on impact. When I was teaching a kid at the high school on the West Side Worcester, MA. threw a Molotov cocktail into his school. Fortunately, he used a plastic bottle. It burned about three square inches of carpeting. I had to laugh when I said to myself, “Thank God for dumb kids.”

Second, you need to tie the rag to the bottle. Nothing worse that throwing a Molotov cocktail, landing where you wanted it, and having it shatter perfectly. Then you noticed the wick had fallen out on the way to the target. No wick-no fire.

Some of these building will have brick faces and metal roofs. Just break a window and throw the Molotov cocktail inside. Carpets, furniture, computer plastic, even paint on the walls will burn. It is okay if the sprinkler goes off. I wonder if you can get hip waders over a gun belt?

We had a kid in my hometown that burned down the old junior high school. He walked up to the front door one night with a can of lighter fluid. The applicator on the end squirts the lighter fluid out. He squirted under the door and along the seams and lit a match. The kid took out the entire old part of the building. Why are kids so competent when it is something they should not be doing?

There will be some casualties in this war. Some killed, some wounded, some captured. Some of them will be theirs. Some of the casualties will be ours.

Now, nobody wants to get killed. But let us look at your life. You are broke after paying child support. She and the kids are not doing any better. None of you are middle class any more. You have no say in the kids education, their health treatment, you may not even have visitation with your sons and daughters. And everything you thought you knew to be true-the rule of law, the sanctity of the of the family, the belief that government was there to nurture your brood-all turned out to be a lie. Face it boys, we are no longer fathers. We are just piggy banks.

So you are not losing anything by picking up the Molotov cocktail. It may be too late for us. But without something changing, your kids will have double the odds of it happening to them. That will knock them out of the middle class again, providing they ever get back in. And their kids, your grandchildren, will end up damaged goods before it is over. So it is okay to run. You just need to turn around and run at them. They are no way as imposing as they seem. They only do what they do for a paycheck.

Television would make us believe that people get arrested because of fingerprints, DNA, facial recognition, and instruments that can tell where a substance was made and here is the local distributors. It is Hollywood crap. Most of the people in prison are there for one key reason. They could not keep their mouths shut. They told someone. That someone told others. The cops hear it and start looking at them for a suspect. That how it works in real life.

This need to confess seems to be primeval. Just human nature. But if you cannot keep a secret, do not expect the one you tell to keep their mouth shut. There is only three people I know for certain they will keep their mouths shut. That would be Jesus, Mary and Joseph.

I only managed to get the main door of the Cheshire County Courthouse in Keene, NH. I would appreciate it if some of you boys would finish the job for me. They harmed my children. The place is evil. So take it out

Some where along the line I picked up the crazy notion that it is better to be dead as a free man than to live as a serf. The government needs to be a little more careful about what they teach in our schools.

And bring a can of spray paint to these fires. Paint the word COLLABORATORS ( two L’s with an S on the end) on the building before you burn it. Maybe we can shame them back to the rule of law. And we do want the police to know exactly who burned the building. Then the police can start interviewing the usually suspects, all 36 million of us.

We have covered the do-bies. Now let us look at the bureaucrats that say-ers.

The Second Set of Books originated in Office of Violence Against Women (OVW) which is part of the United States Department of Justice. Some of these policies, procedures and protocol were developed locally. But the local results would be sent up to OVW and, if approved, would disperse it out to all 50 states. They are smart, clever, bigoted and able to lie as well as any politician that ever called Washington home. In other words, they have now become Washington insiders.

But what makes them so uniques is their anger towards men, any man. They are so twisted in their hatred of men that they are positively scary. And it is not what they are doing to men that makes them frightening. You would expect that. No, it is what they are doing to the women and children that makes them so twisted.

When the Pentagon drops a bomb on innocent civilians the military calls it Collateral Damage. It sounds better than, “Yeah, we killed a bunch of women and children.” Those poor, innocent, stupid civilians have always been caught in the middle since the time we were fighting with rocks.. Your wife and kids are Collateral Damage in the war against you, the man in the family. For 25 years these feminists at OVAW have been willing to sacrifice the women and children to get you. And they cannot claim ignorance about what they are doing. Under the VAWA the federal government is funding at least 1,800 homeless shelters. As long as the Office for Violence Against Women exists in the U.S. Department Justice , no American man, women or child will be safe in their own home.

If you ask these feminists why are the shelters all full, they will not say because of all the arrests. The shelters are full because of men. But they knew from the beginning that this was not man bad-woman good thing. The year was 1976. Two things would happen that year.

First, someone at the U.S. Dept of Justice decided to count the dead bodies. In 1975 there were 1522 women killed in domestic violence. And for men killed in 1975? The dead for men was 1506. Statistically equal a friend tells me so.

If you had asked me before the study, I would have assumed that women were getting the worst of it. But I would be looking at it by genders. What I should have been looking at was species, homo-sapiens, human beings. Men are human-women are human. Being the same species you would expect the same results from both genders. And that is exactly what the dead bodies told us.

The second thing that happened in 1976 was the first domestic violence survey was released. It was so new the time that they called it family violence. Murray Straus of UNH and Richard Gellars from a school in RI were the researchers. They did not find two perpetrators of domestic violence, but three. Men initiated violence 25.7% of the time: women 25.2%, and the other 49.1% was the two going after each at the same time. These two people going after each other at the same time is well recognized in law. The law in NH calls that mutual combat. Men are human. Women are human. And once again we found both genders acting the same manner.

So how did we end up with the theory of man bad-woman good that the government at all levels is using? The feminist writer Susan Brownmiller wrote In Our Time that,” the way you get funding and church donations is to talk about the pure victims. If you talk about the impurity of the victim, the sympathy vanishes.” If women get to be good then men get what is left-bad. Man bad-woman good was originally a funding raising technique. After 35 years, it has turned into official government dogma at all levels, from the local cop on the beat to the White House. Men need to be punished, restrained and retrained. Your wives and children are, unfortunately, just collateral damage in this effort to punish men. So you were not dreaming it. There really is a government pogrom against men.

When a man batters or kills, there is no excuse. When a woman commits the same act, there is nothing but excuses. Simple though inaccurate. But there is one redeeming aspect to men being demonized. Now we men can act like devils. And we do not even need to apologize for it. Men are going to start acting just like they made us out to be. As an old high school semi-punk I can assure you boys of one thing. This is going to be fun. You guys are going to end up laughing like hyenas.

The money funded under the VAWA is split in two when it leaves the Treasury. Part goes the Health and Human Services for fund these domestic violence homeless shelters. If that 36 million number is correct, and it is all that we have, then the 1.44 million arrests a year will be made producing 2.88 million homeless Americans each year. Women and children constitute 60% of these homeless people, 1.7 million Americans a year. Shutting down these shelters would be cruel. What would these women and children do then? Go live under a bridge. No, we are stuck with these shelters for a while. But there is one thing that Congress needs to fix when they fund them again.

These shelters do not allow men on the property let alone inside the residences. Why is it against the law to use federal money on organizations that discriminate against black, Jews, gays or even women but it is okay to do so against men? Men contributed half that tax money. Eight years ago a man in California fled with his children after the police warned him to get out after they had arrested the wife and mother. None of the shelters would take him and the kids in because he was a man. I wonder if this would survive a legal gender discrimination challenge in a federal court?

A society without men is freakier than a world without blacks or Jews. That is not to say blacks or Jews are any less worthy. It just that there are more men in the world than blacks or Jews even if you combined them. If these feminist had to deal with men on a regular basis, then maybe the country would not be in the pickle we are in now.

There is a third reason to end this discrimination, something of a more practical nature. Apparently, some women like to have sex with men. But men are barred from the property. Suddenly, that 15 year boy two doors down starts looking real good. It might even be fun breaking in this new meat. So this woman driven into insolvency by the push for domestic violence arrests now finds herself charged as a pedophile because someone barred men from her world. With domestic violence advocates as friends, who needs enemies.

This shelters came up with a novel approach to fixing the pedophile problem. Male children over the age of thirteen are barred from staying there. Too troublesome. The family broke up when the father was thrown out of the house. Now a second break up is happening with the teenage boys. Perhaps a relative has one bed available. Maybe the family of a high school friend would take him in their home. If neither option works then that is okay. He can move in with his father. Then they will both be sleeping in the car down by the river.

Children of these parents also suffer. They used to have their own bedroom in a safe town with good schools. First they have a shelter, then Section 8 public housing. An urban school. Maybe good-maybe not. Kids learn how to be tough in an urban environment. The kids might go bad or they could come out just fine. But there will be no clunky car as a teenager. There will be no saving fund for college. There will be no monetary gift to use as a down payment for a starter home. This tradition of the older generation giving the younger generation a financial leg up has been ruin due to the older generation’s lack of money. Financially, the older generation is merely treading water. It will take generations after these present two generations to repair the economic damage to these families.

So we are stuck with funding these shelters for a while. These women and children have no place left to go. Some of you guys may think that these feminist caused the problem and then created the solution. But homeless shelters are not a solution. They are just barely a band aid.

The remaining money under VAWA goes to the United States Department of Justice for the Office of Violence Against Women (OVW). As long as OVW exists then the government is at war with men. As long as there is a pogrom against men, then women and children are going to end up as collateral damage. So there is no need for discussion about OVW going. The only thing we need to figure out is which of the two ways we can use to get rid of them-the easy way or the hard way.

And boys, do not try to burn down Washington’s Dept. of Justice Building in an effort to get rid of the Office of Violence Against Women. Their offices are over at N Street.

The easy way is using Congress. The VAWA comes up for funding every five to seven years. Next time it comes up, Congress votes no and everyone at the OVW gets a pink slip in late September. Nice and simple except nothing is simple in Washington. We, the people out here in the sticks, do not always know what the dynamics are in Washington. There might be one method of getting Congress on course. Have Congress demand that the Attorney General get, and release the arrests figures. Or have the President order it. He is usually fearless after he makes up his mind. And this is too large and too well known to continue the Washington plausible deniable routine. Then they will know how much trouble they are in because of these arrests.

There are 220 million adults 18 or older in this country of both sexes. If my figure of 36 million is correct, then that is 16.4% of the adults have been arrested. It could be as high as 55 million or 25%. It might be as low as 22 million or 10%. Whatever the number there are two things that Congress should know. First, is the fellow who discovered the arrests in Minneapolis back in 1992 said do not use it because it does not work. And second, the people arrested now constitute a Fifth Column here in the United States. Our loyalty to Washington is gone. But what did these genuises on the Potomac expect? They have harmed our children. If they think Al Qaeda is a pain in the ass, wait to they see what Americans can do once their fuse is lit.

I am certain the Attorney General will sit for months on the request for the number of domestic violence arrests. Then he will explain that they do not readily have the number and that some sort of Manhattan Project effort will be needed in time and money. Nonsense. When Washington started these arrests in 1984 over 6.3 personal computers were sold here in the U.S. That figure does not include all the mini’s, midi’s and mainframe computers sold that year. There is no way they can pretend that this data does not exist in electronic storage. A request to Ohio for the arrests 1984-2010 would tie up a state clerk for an hour, including their 15 minute coffee break. Time for the truth boys and girls. Because this is not going away.

The hard way is more time consuming, cost more money and is full of headaches. Because the only way of removing a department from the federal government without the consent of Congress is to take out the entire federal government.

The first time I heard that, I said that is ridiculous. We cannot run this country without a federal government. But we will replace the old government with something new and improved. The new government would honor the debts incurred by the old government. There are a lot of useful reasons for starting with a clean slate.

The bipartisan debt commission released their recommendation for cleaning up the $14 trillion we have borrowed over the years. Convention wisdom has it that Congress has no stomach for any of the recommendations.

But a new government could install those recommendation on day one. Three years later, most Americans will not remember that anything is different. The old government laid off its employees when it closed. The new government is hiring. But instead of 65,000 employees at the Dept. of Education, the new government is only hiring 45,000. Instead of an average federal wage of $70,000 a year, the new average will be $52,000. The new government will have to write a tax code. Everyone pays 15% with no deductions. How many IRS employees could you get rid of if there were no more deductions? Any thing is possible with a new government.

Normally over-throwing a elected government is considered treason. Treason is punishable by death here in the United States. But there is one way of over throwing the government. That is through the ballot box. Then it is not treason but democracy. Allegedly, Washington is in favor of democracy, particularly if their candidate wins.

There is no legal mechanism in the Constitution or the Federal code of the United States for dissolving the government of the United States. So that is what we need first. Congress would need to write it. We get them to do it through the ballot initiative.

A ballot initiative is when enough registered voters sign a petition to get a question on the ballot for the next election. The following would be a sample of what the question would look like in New Hampshire.


That all elected representatives from the state of New Hampshire to both houses of the United States Congress are to propose and advance a bill that would set up a legal mechanism to dissolve the United States government should the people decide to do so in a general election by a simple majority.

If this initiative passes in all 50 states then Congress will be stuck. They will have to write the law to dissolve. If they do not I suspect within ten years they will be standing in a stairwell at the British or French embassy with a suitcase in hand waiting to get to a rooftop helicopter. I doubt if they will be thinking about the humiliation of being thrown out of the country. They will be far too busy worrying about what will happen if the mob gets their hands on them.

Washington has not got a friend in the world. Even the British and Israelis loath them now. Kind of a bad time to be losing domestic support. And what they done over the last 25 years? They have wiped out the middle class pandering to a special interest group of bigots. And in typical Washington fashion, they did not even know they did it.

This Ivy League inbreeding in Washington has produced an elite that knows what best. Everyone else-husbands, wives, police officers, prosecutors, judges, attorney generals and guardian ad litems-are to shut up and do what they are told. The rule of law is gone, replaced by the policies, procedures and protocols of The Second Set of Books. Which means the federal government will be going shortly. For the government being unable to deliver the rule of law is like an auto mechanic who claims he does not know how to change the engine oil. A certain minimum competency is required. So it looks like the parents of the Washington elite were right. One can be too smart for their own good.

Betty Friedan wrote that the feminist revolution, like any revolution, would have its excesses. Losing the rule of law is too great to call it a mere excess. It is a catastrophe. It is the heart, mind and soul between the people and their government. These feelings of betrayal by losing it may be permanent. I have 21 years of Army service going back to the Vietnam War. My loyalty to the government should be a given. It is gone. I am certain it will never return regardless of how long I might have lived.

It was another woman that lead us in to this decision to clean house inside the beltway. Something she taught us fifty years ago. You simply look at those folks in Washington and then ask yourself the old Ann Landers question, “Am I better off with them, or without them? Are my children better off with them, or without them?” They are sinking like stones.

Washington, DC was chose as the capital because it was the geographical center or the old Colonies. Today, the geographical center of the country is just west of St. Louis Missouri. The new government can set the capital anywhere in the United States it wants. Imagine how many rodents, insects and parasites they could lose by moving 1500 miles west.

Whether you replace the federal government or not, men are still going to need a legal defense center for men. Something like the NAACP used to get black people their rights. The only checks and balances in the Second Set of Books is the First Set of Books. Which means lawsuits. Now I know you guys are broke. Some of you have had your wives and kids thrown into homelessness. So I completely understand when you tell me that you are broke. But if everyone who has been arrested throws in $10.00 a year then the legal defense center will have a war chest of $360 million. You can buy a whole bunch of lawsuit with that kind of money.

The Ball family has been supplying sergeants to the Army since at least the Revolutionary War. Elijah served as a sergeant in Cushing’s Regiment at the Battle of Bennington. His commanding officer was a general from NH with a name of John Stark. General Start was a clever warrior. He was responsible for the bulk of the heavy casualties the British suffer at their victory at Bunker Hill. His orderly, fighting withdrawal allowed the other units on the hill to not only retreat but collect their wounded on the way out.

General Stark would repeat this performance on three hill tops outside the village of Bennington VT one hot August day in 1777. At the end of the battle, the British lost over 900 men killed or captured. The Colonists suffered 30 dead. Two months later, the depleted British army would surrender at Saratoga. That victory at Saratoga would bring the French into the war. John Stark was the most competent general this country ever produced. For that reason alone his men loved him.

But as brilliant as he was on the battlefield, General Stark would become even more famous for something he said. In 1809 the veterans of Bennington decided to have one last reunion. A delegation called on the General with his invitation. But the General was old and frail. He could not attend. But he did send a message, “You tell the boys I said live free or die. That death is not the worst of evil.” Since 1945 the State of New Hampshire has stamped Live Free or Die on every pen, coffee mug, license plate and highway sign that they have gotten their hands on.

I think the General and his sergeant would be please that his words have elevated from the novelties and bric-a-brac to something more dignified like a courthouse door. Neither of them would give a second thought to the mess left over after the fire was extinguished. War has always been a grim business. Civil wars are usually worse.

But they would be trouble by the new enemy. Oh, they understood when a government betrays it people. They took up arms against the super power of their day to get relief for their grievances. But the enemy we face now is the government that these men birthed at places like Bennington, Saratoga and Bunker Hill. Government is no different than the food in a refrigerator. Given enough time both will go bad.

The smartest person I knew in this life was my mother. Perhaps that is true of all of us. Maybe I just got lucky. She was a nurse by trade. She worked in a time when Western medicine made that final transition from butchery to science. But it would not be her nursing skills that made her extraordinary. No, it would be this one incredible knack she had that I had only modest success at mimicking in my life. If she had something important to say to you, she would say and then never mention it again. She would talk about it if you raised the issue. But she never mentioned it twice on her own. And, oddly, you always heard her.

But she did have one favorite saying. I must have heard in a thousand times in the eighteen years I lived under her roof. It always came at the end of the conversation as she peeled away to see if it was time for Perry Mason or Lawrence Welk. She would turn her head to the side, and over her shoulder she would say, “And the only thing you really have in this world is your family.” Now, thanks to the United States Government, neither we nor our children have that.

I have three things to say to my children. First, Daddy loves you. Second, you are my three most favorite people in the world. And last, that you are to stick together no matter how old you get or how far apart you live. Because it is like Grandma always said. The only thing you really have in this world is your family.


I Was Warned About The Scam Of Family Court

I wish I could say that I was blindsided about how deep the scam of the US Family Court system really is. But I have no good excuse. I was warned.

My custody case took place in Mississippi. At the time, I was living in Los Angeles, California. Every US state has different laws, proceedings, and even names for family court. In Mississippi, family court is known as “Chancery” court.

While living in Los Angeles, a new neighbor moved in next door. He came over one day to chat. He had seen me with my daughter and asked about her. I told him I was in litigation for custody. Then he told me his story.

My new neighbor was a cop. Some sort of drug investigator. Years ago he and his wife separated and divorce and custody proceedings were filed by the cop. The mom apparently was more of a partier than a mother.

“So I go to court and afterwards the judge calls me into his chambers, one on one. He said to me, ‘I’m only telling you this because you work in law enforcement. Don’t waste your money. You are not getting custody. I don’t care if you can prove that she’s a prostitute with 100 clients a day. You’re not getting custody. Save your money.”

He tells me this story and I’m floored, but also, like the degenerate gambler I am, I focus on how my case is different. For one, my case was not in California. The laws are bound to be different. Secondly, I’m not a cop who may have to work odd hours and leave their kid at a moment’s notice. My schedule was predictable. Third, the mother of my child had drug distribution charges against her and was looking at up to 20 years in prison. I didn’t know about her drug charges until well after I had sex with her.

In my neighbor’s case above, his son eventually got old enough to petition the court to allow him to live with his dad. And the court granted it.

“The Best Interests Of The Child,” is a completely fairy-tale made-up “legal standard” that sounds like a great thing but really means nothing. Is it in the best interests of the child in these cases to never give custody to the father except in cases of child abuse? “The Best Interests Of The Child” is really part of the genius of the scam. It’s not what YOU think the best interests of the child is, it’s what the system believes is best to keep the money flowing in.

In my neighbor’s case, the judge admitted that “Best Interests Of The Child” means nothing. He didn’t flat out say that, but in the scenario above, your ex is a prostitute bringing 100 strange men a day into her home where your son is. You are a cop. Apparently, “Best Interests Of The Child,” means your son needs to know firsthand how much of a whore his mother is. Right?

Judges heavily favor law enforcement. Cops know the system and are given weighted testimony. Ever try to fight a speeding ticket? If it’s your word against theirs, the cop will win almost every time.

Place the exact same cop in a family court against his ex and all of a sudden the cop’s job and supposed integrity mean nothing.

It’s all bullshit. It’s all a scam. And the family courts and the lawyers and judges who make up the system don’t want you to know about it.

The vast majority of the time, the only way you’re getting custody via the family courts is if you can prove abuse to the child. If your child is in imminent danger and you can prove it, you’ll win. However, if your case isn’t good enough for an emergency hearing to change custody, then you’re not going to even be able to prove abuse and you will lose.

In fact, in many states, exposure is not the same as abuse. Your ex can literally smoke pot and shoot H around your kid and as long as she doesn’t hurt the kid and sober people are also around, you still won’t get custody.

Remember those drug charges against my ex? She pled guilty. Because she was a new mother, they didn’t send her to prison as part of her plea bargain. She was sentenced to three years probation along with monthly drug screenings. She was let off of probation after a year and a half, and was never given a single drug screening during her probation. Part of her plea deal came about because she said she was a new mother. She used her newborn daughter to stay out of prison, while not allowing her daughter’s father prolonged contact.

She didn’t commit the drug offense alone. She did it with a boyfriend of hers. He is currently serving year 5 of a 30-year-sentence for conspiracy to commit a crime, sale of a controlled substance, and sale of cocaine. He received 10 years for each charge. I just looked him up:

Conviction and Inmate Details For JP
Conviction and Inmate Details For JP — JP had a penis. His girlfriend didn’t. 30 year conviction for JP. His girlfriend didn’t serve a single day in prison for some of the same counts.


For the record, the most legal trouble I’ve been in is traffic tickets. Oh, and my daughter’s grandparents had me arrested for calling to talk to her after I had a court order granting me the right to do so. They got me for “telephone harassment.” I spent 30 minutes in a holding cell at the court house and the charges were eventually completely dropped.

None of what I said above is even recent in my case. I’ll be talking about more recent stuff in future posts. The point of this post isn’t about me, it’s about you. But as a barometer, the mother of my daughter:

  • had active, pending felony drug charges against her when I filed for custody
  • pled guilty to those drug charges
  • did not have a job
  • would not allow me *any* regular contact, physical or phone, with my daughter until the court mandated it

How does your case compare? Remember, IT DOESN’T MATTER!

Family courts are a scam. Stay out of them as much as possible. Don’t waste your money. Unless you have actual, physical proof of abuse, you’re not getting custody. And if you do have actual, physical proof of abuse, I’ll have advice for you soon that saves you lots of money in future posts.

Please share this article with anyone you know going through custody litigation, or contemplating doing so. I was warned, and failure to heed the warning cost me tens of thousands of dollars. Don’t make my mistakes.

You’ve been warned.


Make America Great Again: How To Kill Family Courts

Imagine that you have a close friend named Kevin and he wants to go to a casino and play roulette, except it’s a special version of roulette. He explains to you that there are 38 spaces of red and black numbers, however seven of the numbers are red. The other 31 are black. You can only bet on red. Betting on black is not allowed. This puts Kevin’s odds of winning at roughly 17%. That means, statistically, Kevin is going to win fewer than 1 out of every 5 spins.

It costs at least $3000 to play one spin.  The ball will spin around for at least 6 months and Kevin is asked to bet more during that time with side bets. For instance, there’s an investigator that may put the odds of winning more in Kevin’s favor for only an extra $2000. Kevin is urged by everyone within the casino to make that side bet. Even Kevin’s family believes it to be the right decision.

As the ball starts to slow down, before it has even landed on a number, the casino dealer will try to convince Kevin that he cannot win. The pit boss is getting angry. So a lot of pressure is put onto the dealer to ensure Kevin steps away. So the game is slowed down. Kevin made the original bet a year ago, though, and he even made the side bet, and he wants to see the bet through to the end. Ultimately, the casino dealer tells him that the best thing to do is to accept the losses now because there is no way Kevin can win. The ball is going to land on black, because it always does.

After that lengthy ordeal, Kevin tells you he’s thinking about going back to the casino. And you’ve got other friends who are interested in going to the casino as well. What would you tell them? Who would play at a casino with such low odds of winning? It’s flat out stupid.

US Family Courts Are The Stacked Casino.

This analogy literally cost me over $50,000 to create. This post is the result of almost seven years betting within the casino.

For most those years, I’ve been involved in some sort of litigation against my daughter’s mother. Before filing suit against the mother for custody of my daughter, I remember reading a quote somewhere that said that the system punishes fathers who love their children the most. I believe that quote to be true in the vast majority of cases.

It’s really no secret that the family courts are stacked against fathers. According to the US Census bureau, nearly 83% of single parents are mothers.

If we had a fair version of the system that we have now, fathers would be awarded custody about 50% of the time, and mothers would be awarded custody about 50% of the time, on average.

Because we have a winner-take-all system, and that the vast majority of the time the winner is the mother, that means family court is a scam.

I read on a feminist Web site states that most mothers win in court because the majority of cases are settled out of court! From the article:

In fact, the majority of custody settlements – even those that favor the mother – are reached by mutual agreements outside of the courtroom.

That means that both parties agree in these situations that the mother should have custody.

You can tell that the author of the article above has no idea how the scam works. It’s like saying that 100% of terror suspects in Guantanamo confessed to killing JFK while they were being waterboarded.

The system is a scam! If the system was fair, most cases would be heard and judged on their merits.

Let me repeat that so it sinks in.

The US Family Court System is a SCAM.

Over the past seven years, I’ve read countless stories of people getting screwed by the family court system. I watched the movie Divorce Corp, which even features a mother who cannot see her son and has gone to jail for refusing what she considers to be unfair, insane court orders. It’s not just fathers who are scammed. If you’re a woman in the system, you risk a great loss of your own freedom as well, even if they don’t put you in jail. Chances are you’ll pay a lot in the scam too.

I’ve read lots of Men’s Rights Activists online and they seem to just like to whine about unfairness. Not all, but some. They talk about solutions, sure, but I don’t see lots of action taken the vast majority of the time. And it’s hard to take action when you’re going through something like this—prolonged and delayed court dates and spending thousands of dollars on lawyers and child support while trying to feed yourself. Then after you’ve litigated, it leaves such a bad experience that you’re de-engergized, demotivated and demoralized.

So how can you and others really change the system? Any action taken needs to be straightforward to work.

Some people will suggest seemingly straightforward solutions like don’t get married, always use a condom and things like that. Some people didn’t get the advice not to get married until it was too late. Others still believe that a good marriage helps lead to a fulfilling life. While marriage rates have gone down, people are still getting married. Using a condom as birth control is advisable, but condoms break, and many men aren’t exactly rushing to get a vasectomy. Vaselgel will help if it ever is sold in the US, but we don’t live in that world. And some of us don’t want to die alone, with no offspring.

Considering the above, there is only one solution to the problem of the scam of the family court system:

We Must Bankrupt The Family Court System!

Everyone with any power in the family court system is a lawyer. Lawyers like laws. They can make money off of laws. Legislatures like laws too. They aren’t too keen on repealing laws or even changing laws, which is why we have things like lifetime alimony though we live in a golden age of feminism. We barely have laws about revenge porn, because revenge porn is a new problem. That’s how law works. Most laws aren’t modern.

If there was a move for real fairness in the family court system with goals of making trials faster, there would be less money in it, and therefore fewer lawyers. However, as stated above, lawyers write laws, and so there is no incentive for them to create laws that cost them money or prevent new cases from being created.

The only way to win is not to play, 83% of the time. And no, you aren’t the 17% that is special. You’re just not. Why? Because fuck you, that’s why. This is how a scam works.

“It’ll be different for me. I have a good feeling about this.” Degenerate gamblers say the same thing.

Many People Will Tell You To Get A Lawyer Immediately. Don’t.

The lawyer became a lawyer to make money. Any lawyer is going to tell you to hire them and they’ll promise to fight hard for you. For most lawyers, you are just another case to your lawyer most of the time, and “fighting hard” is just their standard for how they do business. You are not special to them! Your case is likely not special to them! Judges don’t care about hearing the details. They’ve heard everything a million times before.

That’s just another part of the scam, see. The system currently cannot stop you from representing yourself, and there are court clerks who have jobs that include walking you through the system and the required paperwork. So on the days where you have to go to court, just represent yourself. You’ll save HUNDREDS of dollars an hour, while your ex will be paying that much.

Also your ex’s lawyer will not like dealing with you pro se. If you were a scammer, would you like to deal with an outsider? Of course not. So two things will happen if you represent yourself: their lawyer will push for a settlement to not deal with you anymore, or you’ll go to court and lose. Doesn’t sound appealing? You were going to lose anyway, son! Might as well save yourself TENS OF THOUSANDS of dollars.

But my kid is important to me!

Great! I’m glad you care about your child. But the game is rigged. The system is stacked against you in ways that are unimaginable. If your ex has your kid most of the time, you’ve already lost. You know who doesn’t care about the child? The system. And the system cares least about you.

So what do I do instead? 

Save your money! Would you rather have $50,000 and not have custody of your child, or have spent $50,000, and not have custody of your child? 83% of the time, you lose!

The Only Way To Deal With Scammers Is To Not Give Them Money.

You want to kill the snake? You cut off its head. If there’s no money in family courts, there are far fewer lawyers practicing family law, and that means legislatures will start to change the system. It’s the only nonviolent way the system will change. You are NOT on a level playing field to begin with, remember that! This is a SCAM.

Learn from my mistakes.

If I’ve wasted so much money on this, you should be able to benefit from it at the very least. I really do care about other people in my situation and want to expose the family court system for the fraudulent representation of justice that it is. Our criminal court system isn’t much better, with the vast majority of cases never seeing trial. At least the criminal court system is public record and routinely scrutinized and analyzed. Family courts are for the most part, much more secretive. Because it’s a scam, I mean, “best interest of the child” for court records to not be public. Think for one second how insane that is. Perhaps if both parents knew that shady details of their personal lives would be a matter of public record, more people wouldn’t go to court to begin with. The scam doesn’t work if people don’t go to court.

My name is Kevin Murphy and I’ve been scammed like many of you. I honestly thought my daughter would be better off with me and believed that the system would obviously agree. I’ll be telling my story here soon, and giving you all of my lessons learned for the low price of free. Share this article with the Kevin in your life.

DISCLAIMER: I am not a lawyer and this is not legal advice.


Supreme Bullshit

Didja hear that Antonin Scalia died? Forgetting that “Antonin” sounds like a drug that would be heavily advertised on the CBS Evening News (“Ask Your Doctor if Antonin Is Right For you”), Scalia’s death shows just how full of shit everyone in politics is.

My wife went to a church and her priest was one of Scalia’s sons. When she heard of Scalia’s death, it was personal for her. Kind of the closest I’ve ever got to a media story being bigger than the lives directly touched.


A supreme court justice dies in an election year and there’s an instant divide. Republican Presidential candidates are wanting the nomination for the next judge to be decided by the next president. The democrats want Obama to choose the next justice.

Although not really what this post is about, I’ll make my viewpoint known: the law is clear: President Obama doesn’t have to wait. And a step further: why should he? The point of having power is to wield it, and what at all does Obama gain by not nominating the next SC justice? He gets to leave a mark on the court that will presumably be felt for potentially as long as a couple of generations.

Like I said, this post is about the bullshit. No Republican president would wait at this point either. This is literally the news shining a light on the story and the politicians saying and doing what they think their constituents want to hear.

A long time ago, I think when I was in college, I saw an interview with Mr. Scalia. He said something like, “A lot of people think this is an easy job. My job is to interpret The Constitution and apply it to the case before me. Everything goes back to The Constitution.” Maybe Scalia met what he said, but even that line is total, fucking, bullshit.


If the job of the justices were solely to examine The Constitution, it stands to reason that the majority of opinions rendered by the court would have, well, a large majority opinion. How many 5-4 opinions have we seen over the last decade? I’m too lazy to look it up, but it was quite a lot.

And that’s what the story is about. Whoever nominates the next SC Justice basically will stack the odds of the court in their favor until the next justice keels over.

This is an opportunity for politicians to talk about possibly reforming the system. People live a lot longer now, so maybe a lifetime appointment isn’t realistic anymore. Also, what a sweet job it is. I mean, you’re set for life and you have tons of opportunities to get paid to speak. You can’t really be fired (can you?) and that puts you so out of touch with the people whose lives are affected by your decisions. Also think about just how much live has changed and the pace of change. Justice Scalia was appointed by Reagan in 1986, which was probably way before Al Gore invented the Internet.

President Obama campaigned on Hope and Change, and the lack of even talking about changing this archaic system shows Obama is full of shit.

Future President Trump, who I usually agree with, has also apparently stated that the choice of who nominated the next justice should be left to the voters. Why? Because totally unselfish reasons.

SUPREME Bureaucracy

The Supreme Court is the ultimate in government bureaucracy. You have to wait for years to get your case heard, and lifelong government employees who are impossible to get rid of can turn your case down  with absolutely no comment.

I’m not going to get the law changed, but hopefully I can suggest my own nomination: Simon Cowell. He may not be American, but you’ll know where he stands, and unlike Clarence Thomas, he won’t refer to your legal arguments as being “a little too pitchy.”

Shit That Pisses Me Off

Coverage of the RooshV Press Conference Shows The Media Are Liars

I just finished watching RooshV’s Press Conference after he canceled an official Return of Kings meetup.

One of the things that Roosh says over and over again is that the people in the room (the media) are liars.

Like I said, I watched the press conference. So I figured I would look at how the media themselves covered it.

From Roosh V: Controversial ‘pick-up artist’ declares himself ‘the most hated man in the world’ in secret press conference:

Standing up for Bill Cosby, Roosh V also said the rape allegations were “weird” and claimed he didn’t think his accusers were being “honest”.

Roosh did not “Stand Up For” Bill Cosby. He said he thought it was strange how women from 20 years ago were coming out just now. He also said he wasn’t a lawyer and hadn’t seen all of the evidence. He gave an opinion.

But backtracking on himself, the contentious figure continued to put the blame on women as victims of rape rather than their perpetrators.

Roosh was very clear — if he left his key in his BMW in a sketchy area of town, he’s not to blame for his car being stolen, but rational people would tell him not to leave his key in his car.

From a Matt Ramos article on Vice:

A Maryland basement dweller managed to convince media pundits, freaked-out feminists, a half-dozen American mayors, and 46,965 Canadians who signed a Change.org petition to keep Roosh V out of their country, that he’s a credible threat.

Roosh lives in Europe. Anyone who has done just a little bit of research on him would know that. He also didn’t persuade anyone that he’s a “threat” to anything.

The article above also claims that Roosh works near a golf course. They link to an article on buzzfeed.com that is an interview with Tuthmosis, a totally different person. The interviewer asks what his day-to-day life is like at Return of Kings, and he mentions working out of a nice office building in the city.

Tuthmosis Likes To Golf
Tuthmosis Likes To Golf


Why does this matter? Roosh was asked about it in the press conference and had no idea what the reporter was talking about. The reporter did not believe him. The reporter, however, had not done his homework. And the Vice article doubles down:

Though Valizadeh has claimed to be a resident of Europe, with a penthouse office in the United States overlooking golf course, creating content for his millions of devotees, it appears that facade is crumbling.

Back to Vice.

Valizadeh was forced to “cancel” the meet-ups over “safety concerns.”

I wonder how many death threats Matt Ramos has received over the past week. I wonder how many countries have talked about banning Matt Ramos from their borders. My guess is 0, and is just as likely that Matt Ramos has never had to compete for anything in his life.

I asked Valizadeh if he’d be willing to donate some of the large amounts of money he brags about on his Instagram (which has currently less than 800 followers) to a rape crisis center to offset some of the ill-will he’s created.

OK, let me get this straight, Matt. You’re writing and lying about Roosh. You even attended his press conference, and you’re going to mock him for his less than 800 followers on Instagram?

Could it be that most of Roosh’s audience doesn’t Instagram much?

What’s the relevance of his Instagram follower count. Oh yeah, you want to discredit him. Fine. Let’s look at your Twitter follower count, Matt.

424 idiots follow Matt Ramos.

424 idiots follow Matt Ramos as of Feb 8 2016.


If you’re reading this blog (a blog that I intend to update more often) then you likely already get your news from alternative sources.

Regardless of your opinion of Roosh, it’s imperative that we all start calling big media out on their collective bullshit. We all have busy lives and we can’t all become experts in every single story that comes out. That’s what journalism is for. Seriously, share this stuff with your friends. Show Roosh’s statements followed by the printed lies about him. Again, the target today is Roosh, but the target tomorrow could be your friends or family.

I read some other articles about this now that the narrative is that Roosh doesn’t have a strong following and the media was duped about how influential he is.

Unlike Trump, though, Valizadeh can’t back up his bluster with actual crowds.

Yet in the same articles most of them talk about the protest that was a few blocks away from the hotel where Roosh gave his press conference.

If Roosh is harmless, why give him coverage? If Roosh is harmless, why protest? If the media is being sincere (they aren’t), then by giving him coverage, they are wasting my time as a reader. They are literally saying, “There’s this troll who lives in his mom’s basement and he is pro-rape but no one listens to him but we need filler material.” Why would I want to read your publication?

But by giving him coverage and lying about him, they reveal that they are very, very afraid that the narrative is failing, and they are relying upon the ignorance of their readership to not call them out. In other words, they’re still insulting their readers.

At least when I insult my readership, I’m crystal clear about it.


Chris Rock’s Top Five Is A Mess Because Chris Rock Is A Mess

Found from http://www.topfivemovie.com
Found from http://www.topfivemovie.com

I just saw Chris Rock’s “Top Five”. As in, I got out of the showing less than an hour ago. It was TERRIBLE. When a movie’s strength is its cameos (I miss Opie and Anthony on SiriusXM dammit, and Seinfeld and even Adam Sandler are great), it’s safe to say that the movie isn’t good.

I want to do more than just review the movie here, though. I want to analyze Chris Rock through the lens of the film and how it unknowingly demonstrates that fame and money aren’t worth anything if you don’t know how to wield them.

First, I’m just an asshole with a blog on the Internet. That’s it. I do know a thing or two about standup comedy and comedians in general. I try to know a little about a lot of things, and have always had a knack for deconstructing people. So these are just my opinions, and everyone has a right to my opinion.

Prior to seeing the film I read one pull quote from an interview Chris Rock did, talking about how if most people knew how really great rich people had it, there would be riots everywhere, and Rock gives personal examples of his privilege. I interpret this quote to mean he has some guilt over being successful.

The movie is about a stand up comedian who breaks into the movies. Rock’s character is days away from marrying a reality television star. The film apparently takes place on the Friday his first serious film is being released. The movie opens with a news segment to explain all the background to the audience, and then goes straight to a live interview on a college campus where Rock’s adoring fans ask fanboy questions and end in a standing ovation.

So things look good on the outside, but Rock’s movie is getting terrible reviews. His agent gets him to do an apparently all day interview with a New York Times reporter named Chelsea Brown. Rock reluctantly agrees to do the interview after arguing with his agent and what ensues is the female interview getting up in Rock’s business. It’s quickly revealed that Rock’s character is an addict in recovery and a flashback of Rock hitting bottom is shown.

Bear with me, because I’m only giving the background here to get to the point, and trust me, the movie is not worth your time seeing, but this post is worth reading.

In the flashback, Rock goes to a strip club where a comedy club promotor gets a couple of strippers to agree to go back to Rock’s room. They come back to Rock’s room and eat and talk and then they get it on. A 3-way! There’s nudity and having sex with multiple girls side by side on the bed….TO ROMANTIC 80’S BACKGROUND MUSIC. This is done to contrast the “comedy” that happens next, when the promotor comes into the room and raw dogs and spews semen everywhere to more of a hip hop beat.

Rock’s character says something like, “One minute I’m with these two angels and the next minute they’re the most repulsive girls in the world.” And Rock can’t leave the room because “I was naked, where was I to go?”

The girls end up not being paid and then say Rock raped them (comedy gold there, false rape accusations are ALWAYS hilarious) and Rock’s character goes to jail. Rock bottom.

Lesson to learn: Never pedestalize women, ESPECIALLY strippers.

That’s the setup for the first third of the movie, and the themes here keep repeating throughout the movie. The high-level plot line is predictable, Rock and interviewer chick are going to fall in love, and the film even ends on a fairy tale note where Rock wants to literally be Prince Charming to a woman who shoved a tampon covered in hot sauce up her boyfriend’s ass because he made fun of her credit score. As an aside, is getting unknowingly ass reamed by a hot sauce-covered tampon as a comedy bit proof that rape culture exists?

Here’s what the movie reveals about Rock: he has no control of his life and he hates it. The character is different enough than Rock so Rock can have plausible deniability, but there’s no mistaking it, the character represents Rock.

One of the themes of the movie is Rock’s character doesn’t want to marry the reality TV star because the wedding is about her, and not Rock. Even their wedding ring needs to play well on TV. The most realistic line in the movie comes from this reality TV character, and she says to Rock something like, “I’m not talented. I can’t sing. I can’t dance. I can’t do anything. I’m not you. This is all I have.”

Just like the standing ovation in the movie shows, Rock’s character doesn’t really believe he has “it.” He wants to be taken seriously, and not seen as merely a comedian, because being rich, famous, and funny somehow isn’t good enough.

I think in real life, Rock has had an issue with becoming famous for his OJ Simpson bit. He has never topped that bit and what was that, 16 years ago now? On top of that, it’s highly likely he didn’t write some of the funniest lines of that bit. So Rock likely feels guilty about being famous and trapped because he has to live for everyone else (the public, his agents, his movie fiancee who surely represents someone) while he simultaneously refuses to take control of his life for himself.

I can’t realistically convey bad this movie is. I knew within the first 5 minutes it was going to be a stinker and it was. I also know that the difference between a bad movie and a good movie sometimes isn’t that much. As much as the film suggests that relentless honesty is a worthwhile goal, Rock’s character never delivers it.

Had the movie been more raw and honest, and had Rock been willing to break through his guilt and totally take charge, this may have been a great movie. The elements are certainly there. And not only did Rock write, but he directed this as well, so when it fails, it has his name all over it.

Rock held back in the film, and if he doesn’t agree, then his problems are bigger than he can ever admit. Had he taken aim at things he truly doesn’t like about the system or the business, or how it’s very hard to please everyone and say “fuck it, I gotta do what’s right for me,” the film could have been profound. Instead, the highlight of the movie isn’t Chris Rock but Jerry Seinfeld, who, by making it rain on strippers, is showing Chris Rock exactly how not to give a fuck.

Rock is by all means famous, talented, and successful. The message I took from the movie is that it’s more important to Rock that he be Prince Charming and aim to be praised by the women of his life. Rock doesn’t love himself and thus he doesn’t earn the love he so desires, because he doesn’t believe he’s worthy of his success.

Rock’s dad is shown in the movie as a ball buster who hurts Rock’s feelings. His dad actually says, “Oh, so you can hurt other people’s feelings, but no one’s allowed to hurt yours?” In the movie his dad calls him a pussy. What does Rock do? He turns around and gives his dad all of the money in his pocket as a reward. Because again, he has to live with other people’s expectations of what he should do.

But what do I know, it’s just a movie, right? I’m really overanalyzing it and projecting my alpha desires on what the movie should have been. I’m just overreacting. Except Rock himself says it a few times in the movie: “It’s never just a movie. It’s always about something bigger.” In fact, the movie opens with this very dialog.

Fame and money don’t bring happiness, folks. But a sure path to unhappiness is living your life for other people all the time. That lesson, and Seinfeld making it rain, are the only redeeming aspects of the film.


Episode 40 – Holocaust Hilarity

Kevin goes to the holocaust museum and hilarity ensues. Two guys find a bug on a video poker machine and a SWAT team is involved. Kevin also has zero tolerance for zero tolerance policies and thinks he knows what the purpose of these stupid policies are.

Finding a Video Poker Bug Made These Guys Rich – Then Vegas Made Them Pay, Kevin Poulsen, WIRED

How a Pocketknife and Bad School Policy Can Ruin a Student’s Life, Allie Gross, Slate